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Tips to Help You Regain Control of Your Life

We live in a very uncertain world where it can be difficult to regain control of your life sometimes. While many of us don’t like admitting it, there are a lot of things outside our control – much more than there are within our control.


Every now and then, we all feel like things are happening so quickly that we just can’t control them. You just feel so lost that you can’t get a handle on anything anymore. Even the lack of control can contrite to feelings of stress or anxiety.


However, you don’t necessarily have to be at the mercy of life and its whims at all times.  You need to take control of your life – no matter how difficult that might be. With a simple combination of determination and commitment, you can regain control of your life and live your dreams.


I’ll share a few tips that could help:


1. Commit to change

This might seem like some type of mind control teaching, but it’s really not. The first step in how to regain control of your life is to mentally determine that you will.

This step could be anything from making a mental note to telling yourself every day – “I will regain control of my life.” When you commit to change, you will be able to take the right steps as you work towards that. Make a mental note, tell the people around you, write it in your journal, etc. Whatever it is, just make sure that you commit to it.


2. Draft a plan

As it is with just about everything else, you will also need to set a plan to regain control of your life. Your plan will help you to set off in the right direction, and you can also use it to check how much progress you’re making.

A plan will also help you to prepare for some of the obstacles that might come your way as you look to get your life back on track. It’s important to know that you might not necessarily have everything in order. Sometimes, you just need the first two or three steps in the plan. From there, you will be able to make other moves. Just start somewhere and get a plan to help you.


3. Be careful about your associations

As you try to regain control of your life, you must watch the people around you. This is a sensitive part of your life, and you don’t need to be around people who don’t believe in you. Stay in a positive environment and around people who encourage you.

At the same time, you mustn’t just stay around sycophants. Your friends and associates should be able to put you in check and keep you accountable. When you’re stepping in the wrong direction, they should be able to put you back in check.


4. Remember to reward yourself

Regaining control of your life doesn’t have to be boring. You don’t have to always look stern and hard. In fact, this process can be pretty fun. When you have a plan and you follow it, you can reward yourself from time to time to keep yourself motivated.

Imagine you want to lose weight. You set a meal plan and a diet and you follow it for a week. On the 8th day, you could reward yourself – what fitness experts call a “cheat day.” Get a nice pie or a pizza and dig into it. Then, on the next day, you get back to the work.


Just remember that it is always possible to regain control of your life. Although there are many things in your life that we can’t control and just have to accept, there are still so many things we can change. Actions that we can take to make even the hardest situations bearable. It all starts with saying, “S.O. What!” and then moving forward with a S.O. What! Mindset.



I’m Summer Owens, and my passion is helping youth and young adults realize success no matter what obstacles they face. As an international resilience and leadership keynote speaker, author, S.O. What! Success Coach, and creator of the S.O. What! Literacy, Life Skills, and Character Education curriculum, I empower people to say, “So what!” to even their greatest challenges.  provide a framework to help people see past their challenges and focus on solutions using the S.O. What! Success System (Overcome Obstacles + Eliminate Excuses + Calculate Choices = S.O. What! Success). Through keynotes, workshops, books, online courses, and workbooks, I use life’s challenges and my own story of resilience as a rape survivor and teen mom success story to help others confidently pursue their dreams.

Looking for an inspiring college motivational speaker? A high school literacy curriculum? A middle school life skills workbook? A great example for teen mothers? A women’s empowerment or single mother’s conference speaker?  I’m your girl and will help any audience say, “S.O. What!”.