This Isn’t the Life I Was Supposed to Have

I posted this on Facebook yesterday, and I thought it was worth adding to my blog. I noticed in my timeline today that a lot of people are disappointed with where they are in life or how things have turned out for them. And I just want to encourage you and myself at the same time and let you know that almost EVERYTHING in my life is different than I expected or wanted.

I never wanted to be a teen mom. Didn’t want to go to college close to home… Wanted to move far away. Never wanted to be a single mom. Never wanted to be divorced. Didn’t want to be single at 35. Wanted more kids for my son to grow up with. Wanted a child by some time I actually know and loved….preferably a husband. Never thought I’d be a grandmother at 34.

Thought I’d have a perfect relationship with my son. Never thought I would have so little support and have to raise my son alone. But that’s my life. And yours is yours. I’ve made the best of it and you can too. God’s plans aren’t always understood, but I still trust that He knows best and one day it’ll all make sense. In the meantime, I’ll keep telling everyone how imperfect I am and how I don’t have the life I would have chosen.

But I will treasure the life I have. #sowhat

Summer Owens, signature S.O. What! t-shirt

Summer Owens, signature S.O. What! t-shirt



I’m Summer Owens, and my passion is helping youth and young adults realize success no matter what obstacles they face. As an international resilience and leadership keynote speaker, author, S.O. What! Success Coach, and creator of the S.O. What! Literacy, Life Skills, and Character Education curriculum, I empower people to say, “So what!” to even their greatest challenges.  provide a framework to help people see past their challenges and focus on solutions using the S.O. What! Success System (Overcome Obstacles + Eliminate Excuses + Calculate Choices = S.O. What! Success). Through keynotes, workshops, books, online courses, and workbooks, I use life’s challenges and my own story of resilience as a rape survivor and teen mom success story to help others confidently pursue their dreams.

Looking for an inspiring college motivational speaker? A high school literacy curriculum? A middle school life skills workbook? A great example for teen mothers? A women’s empowerment or single mother’s conference speaker?  I’m your girl and will help any audience say, “S.O. What!”.

  1. Tara Jackson
    Tara Jackson says:

    Wonderful! Your faith in HIS sovereignty and love along with Achiever and Restorative strengths (StrengthsFinder 2.0) will keep you on the path of personal mastery. I appreciate the honesty, vulnerability, and the inspiring strength of these posts. Blessings to you and yours.