Summer shares a lesson learned from her memoir on positive people power.
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Why you need positive people around you

If you aren’t spending time with positive people who uplift you and motivate you towards achieving your goals, you are doing yourself a big disservice. As a 15-year old, I was careful to make friends who have similar priorities to mine.

That way, I knew there was a good chance that I would achieve my goals.

If I was to list the essential habits which my positive friends had:

  • They weren’t only existing, they were living 
  • My friends wanted more from life 
  • They were smart and had goals for their lives
  • They wanted to go to college
  • My positive friends wanted to be successful
  • They were future-focused, not dwelling on the past
  • My friends were grateful for life and the opportunities which came their way
  • They chose happiness over negativity and self-doubt 

It’s true that success meant different things to all of us. Some of us went to college, whereas others didn’t. But the unifying factor among us was we were positive people. We saw the good in things, wanted the best out of life. My friends knew they were headed for the better. So they got involved in constructive projects at schools. We learned we didn’t have to get into trouble to have fun. And we had fun anyway doing all the right things and influenced each other positively.

The thing with influence is that it goes both ways. Your friends can influence you positively or negatively. The key to success is to influence and be influenced for good. Think of influence as how it’s easier for a person on the ground to pull down someone standing on a chair. Then surround yourself with people with the same mind as you about what you want for your future. Positive people keep positive thoughts, act in positive ways, and have positive futures. Who are you associating with?



I’m Summer Owens, and my passion is helping youth and young adults realize success no matter what obstacles they face. As an international resilience and leadership keynote speaker, author, S.O. What! Success Coach, and creator of the S.O. What! Literacy, Life Skills, and Character Education curriculum, I empower people to say, “So what!” to even their greatest challenges.  provide a framework to help people see past their challenges and focus on solutions using the S.O. What! Success System (Overcome Obstacles + Eliminate Excuses + Calculate Choices = S.O. What! Success). Through keynotes, workshops, books, online courses, and workbooks, I use life’s challenges and my own story of resilience as a rape survivor and teen mom success story to help others confidently pursue their dreams.

Looking for an inspiring college motivational speaker? A high school literacy curriculum? A middle school life skills workbook? A great example for teen mothers? A women’s empowerment or single mother’s conference speaker?  I’m your girl and will help any audience say, “S.O. What!”.