Summer shares a lesson learned on how to accept help from others.
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How to Accept Help From Others

I was a full-time student, full-time intern and full-time mother.

Clearly, I needed to accept help from others to help me achieve all my goals. I’ll be the first to admit that it took a lot of work on my part to make things work. I was determined to excel in college, use the scholarship I had received to leverage my future, gain work experience and be the best mother to my son, Jaylan.

Grateful is a word I’m very familiar with as people who saw how hard I was working stepped in to help me care for my son while I went to class or reported at my internship. The truth is that not everyone will help. You better get used to it because that’s life. Before you can expect to accept help from others, give them a reason to want to support you by helping yourself.

As a college student with a full course load, I understood I couldn’t do it all on my own.

I had to take care of myself and my son. The best way was to accept help from others. And that assistance went a long way in helping me graduate from college with honours. Having someone care for my son, also allowed me to build lasting relationships at my internship.

Take it from me, help comes from the most unlikely places. Those I thought would help, didn’t. Instead, it was others along my journey who stepped in time and again to help me. If you’ve faced a past rejection, don’t let it keep you from asking for help today if you need it.

The best way to accept help from others is by honoring their time and energy.

For me that meant keeping my word. If I said I would pick up my son at a specific time, I did exactly that. Where I could I even came earlier to make sure the people helping me know I appreciate them.

Have you tried doing it all on your own and you can’t make it work? It’s time for you to ask for and accept help from others.



I’m Summer Owens, and my passion is helping youth and young adults realize success no matter what obstacles they face. As an international resilience and leadership keynote speaker, author, S.O. What! Success Coach, and creator of the S.O. What! Literacy, Life Skills, and Character Education curriculum, I empower people to say, “So what!” to even their greatest challenges.  provide a framework to help people see past their challenges and focus on solutions using the S.O. What! Success System (Overcome Obstacles + Eliminate Excuses + Calculate Choices = S.O. What! Success). Through keynotes, workshops, books, online courses, and workbooks, I use life’s challenges and my own story of resilience as a rape survivor and teen mom success story to help others confidently pursue their dreams.

Looking for an inspiring college motivational speaker? A high school literacy curriculum? A middle school life skills workbook? A great example for teen mothers? A women’s empowerment or single mother’s conference speaker?  I’m your girl and will help any audience say, “S.O. What!”.